Should I study and get this work done or hang out with my friends?
Should I go to bed early or take a break and watch a movie?
Should I eat something healthy or splurge on that cookie?
Generally speaking in the Life Coaching world, the word should is considered a alliterative cousin to a four letter word starting with sh–.
It’s to be avoided.
In each of the questions, it seems like there is a natural good choice and a bad choice. I should get my work done, go to sleep early, and eat something healthy.
Going beyond the idea of should I or shouldn’t I and good and bad, there is another basis of making decisions. When faced with a choice – and I’m conscious enough to check-in – I have two questions that I use.
- Does it align with my values and current mission?
- Looking at my life, could this area use a boost?
Each of us has own own process and questions for making decisions.
What are yours?
Source: via Beautiful Portals on Tumblr
